#MeToo

Hello! 

As many of you may know, I only write very occasionally, when I have something to talk about. Hehe! 

I too am #metoo, but what amazed me the most about this phenomenon is the vast quantity of women that have experienced harassment or abuse and how many of them are in support against abuse and harassment. 


I, like everyone else, am under no obligation to tell you my story but I can proudly say that this has shown me how strong women are and how supportive we all are of one another. 


I am abundantly aware of the problem of harassment, but it has become so desensitised (to me, shockingly) that I seem to be brushing the sexist comments off when they get thrown around at parties and nights out. I seem to simply accept them and make up a justifiable excuse as to why someone else  has decided to say something of this nature out loud. It is appalling and I feel ashamed to admit that I don't do anything because this is exactly what this internet trend is about. How dare I accept this behaviour and lack of respect? 




Although I have realised the sheer enormity of the situation and how real harassment and abuse is, the trend online has shown me how incredible we are as "victims" of this abuse. I use victims loosely because I think we are heroes. Not only because we have come back so strong from all the obstacles but we show support to each and every person that has shared #metoo. This is not about shaming people who have done wrong, this is about being supportive to everyone who has experienced this. 

This is a stand to make sure I don't accept the sexism anymore and make sure I don't justify it. But most of all, this is a shout-out to all the women and show my support. I am incredibly proud of what this hashtag has shown me and what it has taught me. 

I am very proud of who I am and so should every other girl, inside and out (cue previous post). I know some incredible women and the only thing that can come out of this internet sensation is positive support and growth and I really dig that. 


We can do it! Stay amazing, women! 🙋🏼

Lots of love 
Soph <3 
xxx






HOW I REALLY FEEL

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I have realised that I actually use this as a procrastination platform... 

However, I have also realised how much it means to me that girls feel comfortable in their own skin. I have never really suffered from body image issues and I understand that I am one of the lucky ones, but I know we all have THOSE days. 

I have never been a small or skinny person. Never! Even as a baby, I was this chubby, delicious kid that could snuggle and you could blow-spit on her tummy... you know what I mean right?!?! 

As a child, I remember never being skinny and even as a young teenager, I was normal, not skinny and not overweight. As a teenager going through puberty, I kind of "grew" into my curvy body and learned to love my body and how I could dress to made it look amazing! I know I am one of few...

I once read a book called "Finding Sarah: A True Story of Living with Bulimia" which is about a South African girl who suffered so badly from this horrible eating disorder it nearly killed her. Brilliant book, by the way, go buy it and read it! It scared me so much and I was always so grateful that I loved my body the way I do. I am still very grateful and understand that I am one of very few that love my body as much as I do and that many girls my age either suffer from similar eating disorders or just absolutely hate what they look like. 

This is why I am writing this because I wish I could make everyone love their body they have been blessed with. 


I slowly learnt how to dress for my body type and how to show off my curvy hips and luscious thighs that I love to dress up. I learnt, very slowly, that what I see in the mirror is actually about 100 times better to the person standing in front of me and not what I see in a reflection... sometimes I get it so wrong! But I have also learnt to not care. 😂




Now that I am out of high school and the ridiculous pressure and standards of high school, I have realised that I am so lucky to have the beautiful body that I do. Of course I have a few jiggly bits and depending on the season they are at their worst. I love my jiggly bits... sometimes. They give me character and makes me unique. I have become to comfortable in my body that sometimes I am able to take a selfie in the car and think "Shit! I look so good today!". I wish that all girls got to do that only occasionally because I know that isn't every day! 


I think it is up to us Gals to make everyone feel like they belong in society and that they are loved by the gals of the world because I know how we can come together. #GirlPower
I know that I am not the only one that feels like this and that the idea of the "perfect" body is slowly changing, which is something that makes my heart sing. I know that my experiences are happy ones in comparison to some that other people may have had, but if you can make someone's day by simply paying them a small compliment I think the idea of body image and how girls see one another might change standards or just perceptions a little bit. 

I am always here to chat if anyone needs it and I am more than happy to be a shoulder if that is all that is needed.
Stay tuned for some exciting posts on the way! 

Have a beautiful week and you look gorgeous! 😍
Soph <3
xxx



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